To solve the problems, I started in early December to offer the day of the holiday, our family could meet without the pressure of the „same day“. I have found that many families do this and it seems to be working well. This is our third year. When the family meets for Christmas, we can never be sure what will happen, if there is a disagreement – or even where the disagreement might come from. It could be food, it could be unsolicited comments about your relationship status, maybe it`s your grandmother revealing a family secret from 60 odd years ago. No matter how the (very specific) dysfunction mark of your family is taken (no one`s family is perfect), Christmas can produce a lot of emotions in people – good and not so much – so we contacted psychologist Meredith Fuller to understand why these conflicts occur around Christmas and how to avoid them. How can we avoid personality conflicts that occur naturally at family gatherings? I would like to make suggestions like planning for Christmas 2015. My brother-in-law and sister-in-law ruined our Christmas family in 2014. It is perfectly acceptable to accept a disagreement. This will allow you both to benefit from the non-contradictory aspects of your relationship. Talk about the weather and the Dallas Cowboys.
Suppose one person believes in Obamacare, another is strongly opposed. See if you both agree that you want people to be healthy. So don`t do it. Another tip is to partner with a buddy in advance and „save“ each other if one of you is stuck. Even choose a secret signal to call for help. Make sure people have different spaces where they can gather or move away from each other. Offer escape routes both physically and with activities or crafts that offer variety. If you see someone being overwhelmed by a difficult member of your family, save them by asking them to help with something. Create activities that allow you to hire the difficult member of your family.
(„Do you want to carve ham?“) Participating in a guest can sometimes lead the family to maintain their ways of operating and to offer a welcome change. In essence, it is not speaking for the table. Try to do your best to make it palm and avoid getting into the gritty nitty of things. „They won`t solve the problems that need family therapy on the roast,“ Fuller says.